Happy days parents!
You may be able to guess what I talk about this week... Punch. Kick. SMACK!
Let me start by saying that Hoot 2 is an absolute gem! He's is so amazing to be around. People rave about him constantly. He is funny, full of laughter, super sweet with insanely huge dimples, and so loving. Oh but beware, this baby has a dark side. I know, you're going "NNNOOO!!! Hoot 2 is a sweetie." -___- BE-WARE of the tricky baby! Hoot 2 is a hitter (and a bitter at times).
I can't even count how many times we've been jolted out of our sleep by a heavy handed smack in the face, followed by intense laughter, as we scream grunt and groan. Or a seemingly innocent play session can go violent as he draws his hand back to give you a good wack across the cheek. What in the world!!! When they're infants and hands are just kinda flying willy nilly, it's one thing. When he's a 1 yr old hitting then cracking up, we have a problem.
Now, regulating his hitting wouldn't be so hard if he didn't have a super hero, action figure wanna be, captain save the day as a big brother. Hoot 1 thinks his baby brother popping him upside the head is hilarious. He leans in for more, giggling just as hard as Hoot 2 when he gets a one two smack! All of which is followed up by a "Hitting is not funny! CUT IT OUT!" .. Lol. And they both look wide eyed O_O... probably thinking, "But it's fun!" I am grateful that my newly 1 year old is not hitting from anger, frustration, or any emotional distress. He simply thinks it's funny. When dealing with hitting it's crucial to look into WHY your child is hitting. This will help you tackle the hurdle. I've learned that 1 year old go through a hitting phase. They don't have words to express frustration and their everyday life consists of trying to learn new things and interact in situations that aren't easy for them. Lashing out and punishing them (or even hitting them back) for hitting only affirms the behavior they are showing you.
So, let's first accept this; you cannot change that your 1 year old may hit (if they already haven't) but you can have a game plan for when/if they do. I found great starter tips here. When your little gal/guy hits let do not laugh or scream. Be calm and collected. Let them know hitting is not nice then attend to the person hit. Got it. But what do you do when the person hit laughs (like in the case of my Hoot Boys). I am going to have to have a chat with Hoot 1 about why we must not laugh when Hoot 2 hits and exactly what we are trying to teach him. Hoot 1 is an amazing big brother and expresses great pride in his little guy. So I anticipate he will be receptive to making sure his brother is learning the proper lessons for life, wish me luck!
Resources:
Help for Hitting
Biting and Hitting: 16 Ways to Stop It
Another area of concern if your little one is hitting, hitting in other areas of the family. The little guy seeing spankings, family members that are very physical (even if it's in laughter - this is a problem for us), and fighting on TV/videos/etc. Personally, I am VERY physical. When someone says something really funny I hit. When Daddy Hoot and I are playing or talking slick to each other, I hit. It's what I've always done. Which has in turn, been exposed to Hoot 2 as an action you do in fun. Tsk tsk Mama Hoot. Daddy Hoot and I are working diligently with both of the boys to nip this hitting in the bud.
Share any tips or advice you may have!
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Week 13 is up and it mommies! De-stress the Mornings! How perfect was this for last weeks post? I mean really. Hoot 1 is going into Kindergarten this year and I need to whip our morning routines into shape. So I will be hitting the ground like an elephant stampede with this weeks challenge. So, de-stress your morning routine.
A few suggested tips: 1) A good nights rest. Make sure your little one is getting age appropriate amounts of sleep. 2) Plan ahead. Get school clothes, lunches, papers signed, and back packs packed the night before. 3) Fix breakfast in advance. Prepare waffles, french toast, breakfast burritos, etc and freeze them. 4) Set you alarm clock ten minutes early. Then actually training yourself to get up the first time your hear it. By starting off your morning in gear it sets the tone for the rest of your day. 5) Put everything you need to walk out of the house with by the door. Back packs, laptop bags, purses, shoes, coats, and everything else.
All of these things should try to get us on a more streamline morning and make the hiccups (lost shoes, help with tying ties, holey socks, and forgotten permission letter) a little less detrimental to the schedule. Good luck this mommies (I know I'll need it)! Lol.
Admittedly, I am very behind on videos. I am working on a better camera. I thought it would be better to wait until I got a better camera than to upload videos that I'm not happy with. HOWEVER, I will be getting videos up over the weekend - I won't make you wait any longer. So look out for the videos here.
Love, peace, & sanity!
-Mama Hoot
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About Mindful Mommy Monday Blogger
Dominique is an owner of Jane Doe, LLC, a mother of two, wife, and student. She is an experienced Artist Manager, Event Planner, and Branding Consultant. She pushes awareness and mindfulness to the forefront of her work. Her community work is done with mommies and assisting people re-entering the work force.
Dominique is an owner of Jane Doe, LLC, a mother of two, wife, and student. She is an experienced Artist Manager, Event Planner, and Branding Consultant. She pushes awareness and mindfulness to the forefront of her work. Her community work is done with mommies and assisting people re-entering the work force.
To contact Dominique email her at: dominiquepap@gmail.com
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