What is sex for you? When you think of sex…do you think of a particular experience? Do you think of the person who was able to physically please you the most? Does your worst experience come to mind? Maybe you are recalling that one night stand in the parking lot or even the make-up sex that you had with your partner last week. Regardless of what comes to mind…let me let you in on a little something. Sex is an art.
“An art?”, you say? Yes, sex is most definitely an art. And, just like any other art form you study, there are different things that need to be learned and applied in order for you to achieve mastery in that area of expertise. I love to meet artists who love their art enough to continuously invest in becoming better at it. With that being said, we’re going to discuss some ways that you can become a sex connoisseur.
Forget everything you think you know about sex.
Where should I start? You know that thing you learned from your favorite television show? Or…how about that technique you saw on that porn you and your partner watched 3 months ago? Let’s not even mention the tricks your best friend showed you….the same said best friend that cannot stay in a relationship.
Ask yourselves this question…what do I really KNOW about sex. Have you practiced healing sexual experiences? Have you been able to heal past trauma…or even the modern day cold and flu virus with sex? Do you know what positions help men keep an erection longer or increase female orgasm? It’s time that we begin to do a little research. As with any other subject, study to learn as much as you can. There are books, audio recordings and DVDs available that discuss all sorts of ways to improve your sex life and increase your orgasmic potential.
Which brings me to my next point…
Find out what an orgasm is.
This one may seem like a no-brainer, but trust me…the phenomenon of the human orgasm has become clouded under the entire “Sex Sells” financial campaign. People have no idea how to properly achieve or reach the point of climax outside of a purely physical level. Even on a physical level, approximately 75% of women do not have orgasms from penetration alone. Men are placing their health in danger constantly because the majority of males in society do not recognize that an orgasm and the act of ejaculation are actually NOT one and the same. Hence, men are placing unnecessary pressure on their prostate to have an “orgasm”, yet they spill their sperm too often, which can lead to illness and dis-ease over a period of time.
Now, what are we to do when we have been indoctrinated to not only have sex incorrectly, but to have orgasms wrong as well? I encourage you to look into ancient cultures and civilizations. These specific schools of thought provide a wealth of knowledge to assist in issues such as premature ejaculation, uterine prolapse, the inability to achieve an erection and many other ailments that are so common here in the West. Tantric and Taoist texts are a great place to find out how to ensure that women are not only receiving intense pleasure, but are actually having orgasmic experiences. While many of these issues can be helped by diet alone, Tantra and Taoism (unlike many Western systems) are based on an all over, wholistic approach to healing. In these traditional sciences, healthy eating and exercise and even positive thinking and meditation all go hand in hand. There cannot be one without the other.
Recommended Reading
Let’s get ready to heal ourselves and to love ourselves to the best of our ability. Here is a short list of some books that I have read and found to be extremely helpful and eye-opening. Please feel free to share with your loved ones and add a few of your own to this list, as well. That is, of course, once you begin to transition into an avid orgasm receiver and supplier.
- Have You Ever Had An Orgasm? A Woman’s Guide to Everyday Bliss By: Jamilla Manigualt
- http://www.amazon.com/Orgasm-Womans-Guide-Everyday-Bliss/dp/0981723594
- The Emergence of the Sensual Woman By: Saida Desilets
- http://www.thedesiletsmethod.com/index.php?p=TheBook
- The Sexual Teachings of the White Tigress: Secrets of the Female Taoist Masters (Also Available - ‘The Sexual Teachings of the Jade Dragon’ and ‘White Tigress, Jade Dragon’) By: His Lai
- http://www.amazon.com/The-Sexual-Teachings-White-Tigress/dp/0892818689/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1333633954&sr=1-1
- The Multi-Orgasmic Woman: Sexual Secrets Every Woman Should Know (Plus) (Also Available - ‘The Multi-Orgasmic Man’ and ‘The Multi-Orgasmic Couple’) By: Mantak Chia and Rachel Carlton Abrams
- http://www.amazon.com/The-Multi-Orgasmic-Woman-Sexual-Secrets/dp/B0052HL9AQ/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1333634057&sr=1-1
- Female Ejaculation: Unleash the Ultimate G-Spot Orgasm By: Somraj Pokras and Jeffre Talltrees
- http://www.amazon.com/Female-Ejaculation-Unleash-Ultimate-G-Spot/dp/1569756791/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1333635361&sr=1-1
Note: This was originally written for another publication, yet they have yet to print it and I truly believe this info is desperately needed to be seen (and perhaps memorized...) Smile.
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